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In case you hadn't noticed, the President of the United States, Barack Obama, has come out in favor of gay marriage.  He said something that really hit home for me:

And frankly, that’s the kind of thing that prompts a change of perspective -- not wanting to somehow explain to your child why somebody should be treated differently when it comes to eyes of the law.” (from President Obama Supports Same Sex Marriage)

The President is getting some flack for having his opinions evolve at a time convenient to the upcoming Presidential election. I'm not buying that at all, no matter how many times my well-meaning (and not-so-well-meaning) friends try to "correct" me.  He's a smart man. The more he thought about it, the more he would realize that the semantics of "civil union" versus the word "marriage" were NOT just semantics, but actually cruel.  Over time, one would hope, his opinion would change. It did.

As far as "convenient time," that's bullshit. If his opinion changed at any point in the time since he began running for President to the present date, the naysayers would be able to tie that to an upcoming event and bitch about convenience.

Something to think about: My mom is a very intelligent woman. She told me, many years ago, that gay people should be allowed to marry but that the word "marriage" was for heterosexuals, and maybe they could come up with another word for when gay people married. I was horrified, I remember - my smart mommy had just said something that sounded really stupid to me. I didn't know the word "semantics" but I knew that changing a name of an action to single out people in one group, to separate them like yolk from an egg, was really unkind.

Years passed. My mom gave the topic a lot of thought. She realized that people who love each other should be allowed to marry if they wanted to.  Was her timely decision convenient to my formative years? To the years in which half my friend circle was made up of, purely coincidentally, gay men? How about when I worked at an internationally-famous university who was among the first to allow same-sex partners to have the same health insurance rights as their heterosexual co-workers? (I was pretty damn proud the day that was on the radio!!)

It never occurred to me that her timing was convenient TO anything.  I was just happy that she came around. Just like I'm happy that Barack Obama came around.

Don't comment to tell me that I'm wrong, that the POTUS chose when he would support gay marriage so that he'd get more voters. I have let other stuff slide but I'm standing firm, no discussion, on this one.

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